Sarah Ann Hall

Reporting on writing in progress or, more probably, not.

#Trifextra: Week 62 – Advice

with 24 comments

This weekend at Trifecta:

‘We want you to give us thirty-three words of advice.  Your advice can be to anyone or about anything.  We only ask that you make it uniquely yours.  If you have time to kill, you can easily get lost in the advice of others here.’

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I had difficulty this weekend. I know what I want to say but, after hours of thinking, moving words around, changing point of view, I’m still not happy. If I don’t post now, I never will.

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Friendships die.

It is better to lose a friend by being honest than keep one by lying.

Make the friends you need. Keep the friends you want. Love both. Let the rest go.

 

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Written by Sarah Ann

April 7, 2013 at 7:52 pm

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  1. Well said!

    atrm61

    April 7, 2013 at 9:29 pm

  2. I know what it’s like when you can’t quite get the words the way you want, but I have to say that I love what you’ve done here! I’ve been through the death of a friendship and it was really difficult. You’ve hit the nail on the head, especially with that second line, which I love! I also really love the release in that last line. I’m glad you posted! 🙂

    Suzanne

    April 7, 2013 at 9:35 pm

    • Thank you Suzanne for the great comment. I’m glad you like the second line – that’s the one I was happy with.

      Sarah Ann

      April 8, 2013 at 9:03 pm

  3. I always struggle with getting the words right, but posts are like friends. We may not think they are perfect but chances are they are perfect for us… 😉 The letting go part is proven by Facebook to be the biggest challenge (how many have FB friends to be true-true friends and yet still struggle to hit the unfriend button).

    Nice post!

    Marie

    April 8, 2013 at 12:23 am

    • Thank you for that additional piece of advice – posts=friends. I’ll bear that in mind when I’m struggling in future. I knew an old friendship was definitely over when I was unfriended on FB. She never was very honest that one….

      Sarah Ann

      April 8, 2013 at 9:07 pm

  4. losing friendship is a gut buster – you have hit the nail on that head quite well. glad you posted

    barbara

    April 8, 2013 at 12:32 am

  5. I like this. Striking a compromise can be difficult, but it can be worth it too.

    Draug419

    April 8, 2013 at 1:42 am

  6. Such a true post, of any people in the world,you should be honest with a friend.

    ann bennett

    April 8, 2013 at 2:04 am

    • My problem is that I’m honest too much of the time. I will tell you if your bum looks big in that, and some people don’t want to hear it.

      Sarah Ann

      April 8, 2013 at 9:10 pm

  7. Brilliant advice.

    deanabo

    April 8, 2013 at 2:56 am

  8. these words seem fine to me. I understand and agree with the sentiment.

    • I’m glad the words worked. Maybe I was just trying to be clever before and tying myself in knots.

      Sarah Ann

      April 8, 2013 at 9:10 pm

  9. That second line is perfect – if we can’t be honest with a friend, they probably weren’t that good of a friend to begin with.

    jannatwrites

    April 8, 2013 at 5:30 am

    • Thank you. I struggle with how long it can take to find out that a friend isn’t right for you, or you for them. You can go through so much only to learn that you didn’t know them at all.

      Sarah Ann

      April 8, 2013 at 9:14 pm

  10. Friends, or anything you cherish… Nice one.

    KymmInBarcelona

    April 8, 2013 at 10:15 am

  11. Sarah, this SO resonated with me. I have just lost a girlfriend of over 6 years and wonder what the hell happened, we were so close, though there was no honesty from her part. I have passed the initial hurt and disappointed stage, then had the anger, now I learn to accept and move on. Thank You!

    ramblingsfromamum

    April 8, 2013 at 10:17 am

    • You have my very best wishes. I lost a friend during my last year at university. As we shared a house, it was a bit difficult to know what to do when she stopped talking to me – I never learnt what I did wrong. Eighteen years later, and the advent of social media, she contacted me. I didn’t respond. I still want to know what happened but considered it better not to ask and be disappointed/ hurt all over again.

      Sarah Ann

      April 8, 2013 at 9:22 pm

      • My friend and I worked with each other years ago, that is how we met. My partner and I socialised with her and hers regularly, going away on trips…everything. She asked me to join her where she worked and put my name forward. I got the job..then it all turned sour..and I was dismissed within 2.5 months of being there, she hasn’t contacted me since I left… yes it is very painful and confusing. Thank you for sharing your story with me. x

        ramblingsfromamum

        April 9, 2013 at 2:15 am


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